Today I read a blog post from a Christian teacher that said these words, “I would hate to be looking for a wife today, because I wanted to marry a virgin and I did.”
First, let me say I understand the spiritual, psychological and moral value of virginity. I have taught it, and I will continue to teach it. But still, there is something that bugs me about the statement he made…
As God discloses his heart is the book of Hosea through the directed actions of the man Hosea, we are caught off guard… because God instructs Hosea to marry a harlot…a whore. Unbelievable. You know, we often treat the Old Testament portion of the Bible as simply the “judgment” part of the Bible, but here we see the redemptive heart of God “reaching.” The reason this reference is significant is because in the New Testament we come to understand the clearer picture of the relationship between “Jesus the Bridegroom” and the church who is His “bride,” and the Apostle Peter would quote the book of Hosea under the inspiration of the Holy Spirit, and the story of Hosea would become key to understanding the nature and power of our salvation covenant through the bride-groom, Jesus Christ (cf. 1 Peter 2:10).
In addition, as we look through the lens of Ephesians 5 into the nature/spirit of the covenant of marriage, one of the compelling descriptors of the relationship is vs. 26, “having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word…” And of course, the language “cleansed” and “washed” takes us back to the image of John 13 when Christ (the bride-groom) washed the feet of the disciples (representative of the bride?).
What incredibly beautiful imagery as Christ “the bride-groom” kneels to wash away the residue of the path previously walked… to wash away the dirt and the filth that had been picked up along the way from the feet of His bride. The message of the bride-groom was clear: “My dear bride, there is nothing you have done… there is no filth or residue of the path previously walked that I am fearful of exposing Myself to… and this covenant I am about to make DOES have the power to wash away the effect of that sin.” John would emphasize that aspect in his later writings (cf. 1 John 1:9).
To promote the irrefutable spiritual, psychological, emotional, and moral value of virginity is one thing… and I do, and the church should. But to make a determining categorical statement of, “I wouldn’t be able to find a wife today, because I want to marry a virgin,” and to send the message to young men and women, “only marry a virgin,” somehow misses it. It subtly begins to subordinate the cleansing power of a new covenant through the cross of Christ, to the power of sin and failures of the past as a identity determining force for the future.
Have I confused metaphors here…were we talking about marriage or the church and salvation? It would seem confused metaphors on this matter is not original to me…Paul and the Holy Spirit seemed to do the same. “This mystery is great; but I am speaking with reference to Christ and the church.” (Ephesians 5:32)
The real danger is that unwittingly we somehow declare that a New Covenant has less power to establish identity than does the sin of my past… and unfortunately that is a message that the church has sent to the world all too well.
Don’t give in… don’t let go!
pastor tom sterbens
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Follow-up comment rss or Leave a TrackbackTom, you have given me a lot to think about with this one, and I thank you. I’m going to be sharing this on my blog, linking it back to you. Just sitting here thinking, “WOW”. Can’t thank you enough.
Haven’t been on this site in a while. Am glad I looked at it tonight. My daughter, Ana, will be 15 in Aug. She has committed to herself, the Lord, me, and a good friend of hers to remain pure until married. She purchased a purity ring, and it has become quite the witnessing piece at school. Students/friends will ask about the ring (it looks like an engagement ring). When she answers them, she is giggled at and told, “Oh, how sweet. Hope it works for you” (insert condescending tone). She answers back, “It will because it’s my choice, and if a boy wants from me at this age, then he can move on.” That being said. She has had the opportunity to minister to one of the girls who initially mocked and laughed at her and her ring. This girl has lived a very troubled life which has included multiple partners at 14 yrs old. Due to the friendship she and Ana have struck, my daughter has been able to encourage her friend and let her know the worth she has. About a month ago this friend asked Ana if she would be able to live a life like Ana. She stated she wanted to change her life because she has seen how Ana stands up for what she believes in and doesn’t let anyone pressure her. She also stated she wanted to be “clean” again, and she regrets “doing things with boys.” She also asked Ana many questions about the Lord; the most poignant, “Would God accept now even though I have had sex?” Ana told her, “Of course, and they chatted for a very long time about Him.” So all this to say, I am so thankful you took on this teaching Pastor Tom. I can now send Ana to the site to gain Scripture knowledge, and she will be able to show her friends what the bible says about renewal.
As always, thanks.
Kim
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